TrueLoveWaits: Wisdom is the New Sexy

Use wisdom this time around and not your emotions as you embark on your dating journey. No longer be steered by your feelings, or caught holding hands with desperation, while tongue kissing loneliness- You’re Dating WISDOM NOW and oh does it feel so good. Wisdom is the New Sexy is a recap on all the dating tools I've provided for you thus far, because I feel within my knower that some of you ladies (this Month) are going on some dates really soon (Get excited about that!!).

So a recap is well needed because I don’t want any of you to draw a blank and forget everything you've learned the moment he opens the door for you to the restaurant. Don’t get distracted by the butterflies or slight jitters you may experience (which are normal by the way) stay in tune with the flow of the date. I guarantee you that once the flow of the date begins to naturally flow, your butterfly-jitters will have gone out the window, and your date will be maximize to the fullest. It is a Biblical Principle that when you activate your faith by preparing for what you hope for, your activated faith will be the magnetic force to pull that which you hoped for to you-You're Now Prepared to Date. Below are Dating Principles to remember from  last month’s TLW Blog Posts: 

 Does Being Christian Make Him the One?

•   Take It SLOW- When Liking a guy don’t jump head first into Courting the Guy, make sure you go through the proper steps to get to know the guy (friendship, Dating, and then Courtship).
•  See If You’re Compatible- Just because he is Christian doesn't mean he is compatible for you; take the time to get to know YOU and your Purpose first, and see if it's compatible to his Purpose in life (or vice versa). Remember the example with the renowned singer who travels the world singing and the guy she is seeing desires a stay at home wife-his desires and her purpose clashes with one another.Take it slow your handsome circle piece is out there.

  Are You Prepared to Date?

•   First Prep Step- Make sure you're emotionally ready to date. Ask yourself this question "Am I totally free from my past?" Now answer it. Second Prep Step- Take a closer look at your calendar and pencil in the days and times you will have available for date nights or day dates. Also draw up a list of fun dating activities.
•  Third Prep Step- What to Wear? Make sure whatever you decide to wear on your date, make sure your dress code is in compliance with the FCSC Code- Fabulously Comfortable and still Sexy Conservative.  Fourth Prep Step- Got Soul Insurance? Always have your HB Plan with you, whether stored in your memory bank or written on an index card with you. It is imperative to identify and know your Hotspots while having your Boundaries set (Don’t leave home without your Soul Insurance). 

More than the Suit Alone.

•   Look beyond the Suit- Of course ladies this was one of my favorite blog posts to write. I enjoy a man in a tailored suit, but is he more than the suit alone? (Sure He looks good… but is that just it?)
•  Dating Principle- There is nothing wrong with being physically attracted to him, just don’t get caught up in fatal attraction, use the wisdom God gave you and seek out more than his good looks and charming ways.

   
 3 Keys to Identify Mr. Counterfeit

• Key #1:  Never Overlook the Signs- Don’t ignore the Red FLAGS.
•  Key #2: Put Your Listening Ears ON- Be Quiet and let him talk!!!
• Key #3: Prayer is Key- Get your divine facts before feelings.

Have FUN on your Date-Wisdom is the New Sexy.

~MechelleRenee 

TrueLoveWaits: More than the Suit Alone.

There is nothing more attractive to me than a man wearing a tailored suit- His handsome face, masculine physique, sexy smile, and the choosing of his tie and cufflinks to match would always send chills up my spine. But then I would question is he more than the suit alone? We as women tend to allow our physical attractions to a man become the dictators of our life. Now don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with having physical attractions, just don’t allow that attraction to blur your vision of who the real man wearing the suit is.

 There are many good-looking suit wearing men out there who are physical abusers and womanizers. What you see on the outside is NOT always what you get. You may have thought that he was the perfect gentleman because of his charm and sexy smile; until you find yourself frantically searching for your concealer to cover up the black eye he gave you during his normal drinking rage. Don’t get caught up in fatal attraction, use the wisdom God gave you and seek out more than just how good he looks in a suit. What lies in the heart of a man should weigh more on your rector scale than your physical attraction to him.  

Keep in mind that he may not come in the package that you were expecting. I love suit wearing men, but my soul mate may be a mechanic who works on cars all day long. Would you rather have a suit wearing abuser, or a dirty nail-bed mechanic who cleans up nicely?  You can agree that even from a business point of view, we can say that First Impressions are very important. However, the meat of your presentation stems from the knowledge of how well you know the ins and outs of your product. In knowing this I choose the good hearted mechanic who cleans up nicely and would look just as good in a suit. Suit wearing men are my attractions and yours may be different from mine. But whatever physical attraction it may be make sure you go beyond his charm and sexy looks to see if he is more than the suit alone.  

         

~MechelleRenee