TrueLoveWaits: Going on a Date?

He asked you out and you said yes, now what?

I know your excitement level is at an all-time high right now and I am very happy for you, but you being prepared for this date will determine which direction the date will go in. Here are some Date Nuggets that will help you before and while on your date.

• Get clear understanding as to where he is taking you: You need to be made aware of the attire for the date. I would hate for you to show up to the date wearing a beautiful salsa dress and your gorgeous dancing heels to match, and he’s taking you bowling. Make sure you have a clear understanding of where he is taking you, and if it’s a surprise, ask him how you should dress for the surprise. 

• What you wear solely depends upon you: A helpful tip: make sure what your wearing doesn't screen let’s skip dinner and go straight to dessert (too sexy-leave something to the imagination), and please don’t let your attire yell churchlike attire either (Sunday’s Best). You want to be fabulous, comfortable, with a hint of sexy.  

• Should he pick you up or meet him there: This would depend on the level of how comfortable you are with having him know where you live. Having Him come to pick you up has nothing to do with him coming into your home. Me personally I don’t have a problem with a gentleman coming to my door and picking me up. But you have to use wisdom as well, meet him there if you feel more comfortable doing that (make sure you communicate that to him).  

• What to bring with you: Have your plan in hand: make sure you have your Hotspot Boundary Plan (HB plan) and some of your questions you desire to know about him. Keep in mind that you’re on this date to get to know one another so set the standards and ask the right questions. Your HB plan is your boundary plan-what you stand for (morals) and how far you will allow the date to go (boundaries). Knowing your hotspots (triggers that turn you onto sex) will help you set boundaries from preventing you from slipping (keep the Cookie in the Cookie Jar).

•  Flow with the chemistry of the date: Don’t become a Drill Sargent with 99 questions. Still get your questions answered but do it with flair and a genuine smile.  Have yourself a glass of wine or drink of your choice but don’t overdo it on the alcohol beverages.  You want to make sure your senses are all there and fully working at all times. Because this date will determine if there will be another date and so forth, so keep your focus.  

•  Icebreakers: “so tell me something about you”- Ask about his family and their relationship, and make sure you’re prepared to answer the same questions. Ask about his goals in life (short &long term Goals). And the questions you’d prepared to ask that are important to you. Use your intuition, I called it your spider senses-if something doesn't feel right to you don’t ignore it, ask more questions and always have your mental notebook ready.

    More importantly be yourself and have fun!! If you fake it you will have to maintain the imposter that you've created, but if you be yourself than you are able to maintain YOURSELF, so be yourself. Enjoy your date.

    

     ~MechelleRenee