TrueLoveWaits: Does Being Christian Make Him the One?

Absolutely Not…

Although he may have an amazing relationship with God-which is very important to have, it should not be the deal breaker for you to bypass the friendship and Dating stage and jump HEAD FIRST into Courtship- having a serious relationship with one another. Now before you Christian women jump down my throat and rebuke me, let me explain what I mean. Just because he is a Christian man doesn't mean he is compatible for you. 

For example God called you to the mission fields or to be a renowned recording artist who travels the world singing, and the gentleman that you’re seeing desires to have a stay at home wife, while he is the sole provider for the household. Now his desires are not wrong for wanting a stay at home wife, and there are many women out there who fit that desired category, however, he would not be compatible for you and your God-given purpose in life-you might want to reconsider and keep him in the friend zone.

When dating someone the most important thing you must know is YOURSELF. Knowing your purpose and what you desire out of life will determine who will graduate from the Just Dating Stage to the Courtship Stage. What if you meet someone who you could really see a future with and his purpose is called to serve his country or has a renowned Calling on his life- how would you handle that? My advice to you is take a step back and see if this would be the right relationship for you; there will have to be major sacrifices made on both ends (which I believe is an understatement). So before taking the relationship to the next level, ask yourself are you willing to take on the responsibilities that the relationship carry. 

Will his career be compatible to yours (will you see each other)? Are you willing to take on the responsibilities of being in a serious relationship with someone who carries such magnitude of a destiny? Will there be an even playing field of reciprocity given to both of your needs and desires for your relationship to thrive?  These are the questions you must ask yourself first before taking your relationship to the next level. If you desire your husband to be at home with you and not gone for long periods of time, than you might want to reconsider taking on the responsibilities of being an Army Wife and so forth. But on the other hand if you know within your knower that he is the one for you, and his calling in life will not detour you away from fulfilling your purpose, than I give you permission to take your relationship to the next level.  

But first things first, find out what your God-given purpose is so that you are able to see if you’re well-matched with one another. Your purpose in life will be the guiding compass to your compatible partner; don’t go where your compass has not sent you. I’m a writer and I enjoy being a writer, it is my God-given purpose to teach through my writings. With that said I would not get involve with someone who views my purposeful writings as a hobby-my compass is not sending me that way. You want someone to believe in and support your God-given purpose just as much as you do, and who will understand (if expressed to him clearly) that at certain times of the day you need your space in order to focus in on the duties of your purpose. If you’re a recording artist, you need him to be OK with your late night studio time, and traveling schedule. If you’re a writer (LIKE ME!!) he will definitely have to understand your alone time needed to focus in on your writing.

Your compatible mate has to be just that “Compatible”; keep in mind that the Compatible door swings both ways- he may be well-matched for you but you’re not well-matched for him (If this happens, come to turns with it ,and remain friends if possible-it’s OK move on). Don’t try to fit a square piece into a circle shaped-hole, it just won’t work! Some of you have men in your lives right now that are just not compatible to your dreams, vision, and goals-And you are aware of it. It’s time to make a change, no more pleading insanity with your relationships- doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results for your relationship, the cycle stops HERE! I challenge you today to rid your life from all the square pieces that won't fit, and find you a handsome circle piece that fits your life perfectly. Does Being Christian Make Him the One?  Absolutely Not…

~MechelleRenee