TrueLoveWaits: Wisdom is the New Sexy

Use wisdom this time around and not your emotions as you embark on your dating journey. No longer be steered by your feelings, or caught holding hands with desperation, while tongue kissing loneliness- You’re Dating WISDOM NOW and oh does it feel so good. Wisdom is the New Sexy is a recap on all the dating tools I've provided for you thus far, because I feel within my knower that some of you ladies (this Month) are going on some dates really soon (Get excited about that!!).

So a recap is well needed because I don’t want any of you to draw a blank and forget everything you've learned the moment he opens the door for you to the restaurant. Don’t get distracted by the butterflies or slight jitters you may experience (which are normal by the way) stay in tune with the flow of the date. I guarantee you that once the flow of the date begins to naturally flow, your butterfly-jitters will have gone out the window, and your date will be maximize to the fullest. It is a Biblical Principle that when you activate your faith by preparing for what you hope for, your activated faith will be the magnetic force to pull that which you hoped for to you-You're Now Prepared to Date. Below are Dating Principles to remember from  last month’s TLW Blog Posts: 

 Does Being Christian Make Him the One?

•   Take It SLOW- When Liking a guy don’t jump head first into Courting the Guy, make sure you go through the proper steps to get to know the guy (friendship, Dating, and then Courtship).
•  See If You’re Compatible- Just because he is Christian doesn't mean he is compatible for you; take the time to get to know YOU and your Purpose first, and see if it's compatible to his Purpose in life (or vice versa). Remember the example with the renowned singer who travels the world singing and the guy she is seeing desires a stay at home wife-his desires and her purpose clashes with one another.Take it slow your handsome circle piece is out there.

  Are You Prepared to Date?

•   First Prep Step- Make sure you're emotionally ready to date. Ask yourself this question "Am I totally free from my past?" Now answer it. Second Prep Step- Take a closer look at your calendar and pencil in the days and times you will have available for date nights or day dates. Also draw up a list of fun dating activities.
•  Third Prep Step- What to Wear? Make sure whatever you decide to wear on your date, make sure your dress code is in compliance with the FCSC Code- Fabulously Comfortable and still Sexy Conservative.  Fourth Prep Step- Got Soul Insurance? Always have your HB Plan with you, whether stored in your memory bank or written on an index card with you. It is imperative to identify and know your Hotspots while having your Boundaries set (Don’t leave home without your Soul Insurance). 

More than the Suit Alone.

•   Look beyond the Suit- Of course ladies this was one of my favorite blog posts to write. I enjoy a man in a tailored suit, but is he more than the suit alone? (Sure He looks good… but is that just it?)
•  Dating Principle- There is nothing wrong with being physically attracted to him, just don’t get caught up in fatal attraction, use the wisdom God gave you and seek out more than his good looks and charming ways.

   
 3 Keys to Identify Mr. Counterfeit

• Key #1:  Never Overlook the Signs- Don’t ignore the Red FLAGS.
•  Key #2: Put Your Listening Ears ON- Be Quiet and let him talk!!!
• Key #3: Prayer is Key- Get your divine facts before feelings.

Have FUN on your Date-Wisdom is the New Sexy.

~MechelleRenee 

TrueLoveWaits: 3 Keys to Identify Mr. Counterfeit

As women we have the ability to spot out a counterfeit designer bag from a mile away, so why can’t we spot a Counterfeit man right in front of us? I have put together for you a condense version of 3 ways you can spot Mr. Counterfeit. So take out your key-ring of dating and add these 3 important keys to it because you’re gonna need them to expose Mr. Counterfeit.

Key #1:  

Never Overlook the Signs- Don’t ignore the Red FLAGS. Dr. Maya Angelou once said “When a person shows you who they really are, believe them.” Don’t get so caught up in his good looks and his charming ways, take notice in how he treats other people besides you-people like the waiter, who he doesn't have to impress. See if he has a forever roaming eye, or an eye that he uses to uncomfortably undress you with.

Side Note: ladies, be on your best behavior as well and nothing less, there shall be no picturing him naked either. Never overlook the signs, now it’s time to put on your listening ears. 

Key #2:

Put Your Listening Ears ON- Be Quiet and let him talk!!! I say this because Mr. Counterfeit feeds off of what you tell him. For instants if you’re spilling your heart out (already) by telling him the qualities you want in a man, you just gave Mr. Counterfeit the perfect strategy to conform to your liking- but his cover up won’t last long.

Counterfeits can’t handle the real deal questions like where do you see yourself 5 years from now? Mr. Counterfeit’s goal is to keep you in the wooing stage. That place where you’re floating on a mesmerizing fairy dust cloud, and he is standing over you wearing nothing but a togas dropping grapes into your mouth. SNAP OUT OF IT and start asking real questions, you can start the conversation off by asking him questions like “Tell me something about yourself,” and listen to his response and his body language. 90% of his message to you is not coming out of his mouth, so don’t sleep walk through this- stay focus.

Side Note: Interrogate but don’t interrogate- ask your questions in a subtle but direct way. 
Those days of you handing your heart over to every
passing Joe Blows are OVER; you are much wiser now. You must protect the rights to your heart.  Ask your questions, stay sweet and stay focus.

Key #3:

Prayer is Key- Get your divine facts before feelings. I saved the best for last because we tend to overlook the importance of prayer. Pray and ask God for clear understanding and discernment. Basically, you want God to reveal to you the signs of a Counterfeit. Praying “is he the one Lord” and revealing to God how much you like him is irrelevant to what you should be saying in your prayer. You’re asking God to reveal to you the facts about Mr. Man and a strategy of removal if need be. So STOP presenting God with your emotions and get down to business with a strategy,  because your heart is a serious matter. Keep in mind that the Lord knows your heart and your desires, especially when it comes to finding the right mate for you.

Side Note: Talk to God first before talking to your girlfriends, you don’t need added opinions swarming through your mind while making an important decision concerning your heart. Ladies, you're now prepared to use your 3 keys to POOF BE GONE Mr. Counterfeit.   

~MechelleRenee